You can’t change a pattern you don’t understand.
Discover why you keep repeating the same patterns in relationships, even when you know they’re not working, and what it takes to start doing things differently.
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST | RELATIONSHIP EXPERT | MEDIA COMMENTATOR
You can’t change a pattern you don’t understand.
Discover why you keep repeating the same patterns in relationships, even when you know they’re not working, and what it takes to start doing things differently.
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST | RELATIONSHIP EXPERT | MEDIA COMMENTATOR
KERSTIN
ANDERSON-RIDGE
Complex psychology, made relevant to real life.
Kerstin Anderson-Ridge is an Australian clinical psychologist, relationship expert and media commentator known for making complex psychology accessible, relatable and relevant to everyday life.
Drawing on more than 20 years of experience, she explores the psychological patterns that shape our relationships, why we repeat them and what it takes to change them.
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CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST & RELATIONSHIP EXPERT
Understanding why we think, feel and behave the way we do in relationships, and the patterns that keep us repeating what isn’t working.
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MEDIA COMMENTATOR
Bringing psychological insight to the conversations shaping our lives, from relationships and human behaviour to mental health and contemporary issues.
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AUTHOR & PODCAST HOST
Exploring the psychology behind the patterns we repeat through Knowing Why, a book in development and an upcoming podcast about understanding ourselves and doing things differently.
Why do we keep repeating patterns that leave us giving more than we get?
You can be intelligent, capable and successful in so many areas of life, yet find yourself repeating the same patterns in relationships.
Perhaps you’re always the one making the effort, keeping the peace, taking responsibility or wondering why your needs seem to come last.
These patterns don’t appear out of nowhere. They often develop long before we recognise them, shaped by what we learned about love, approval, belonging and our place in the world.
Understanding where they come from is the first step towards changing them.
ABOUT
ABOUT
Hi, I’m Kerstin
I’m a clinical psychologist, relationship expert and media commentator, and for more than 20 years I’ve been helping people understand themselves and the patterns that shape their lives.
Over that time, I’ve noticed how often the same patterns turn up in different corners of our lives, and nowhere more than in our relationships. We can see clearly that something isn’t working, and still find ourselves doing it again. That’s what fascinates me.
Why do we keep putting other people’s needs ahead of our own? Why is saying no so hard? Why do we end up giving more than we’re getting? And why is knowing what we should do so often not enough to make us do it?
After more than two decades in private practice, my focus has moved beyond the therapy room. Today I bring psychological insight into mainstream media, public conversations, writing and podcasting.
SPEAKING
Relationship psychology for television, radio, podcasts and events
KEYNOTE TOPICS
KEYNOTE TOPICS
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Why intelligence and insight don’t automatically protect us from repeating unhealthy relationship behaviours, and what helps us recognise a pattern while we’re still in it.
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The psychology of over-responsibility, people-pleasing and feeling responsible for everyone else’s happiness, and why giving can quietly turn into resentment.
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How attachment, family roles and early experiences influence who we become in relationships, from the peacekeeper to the one who holds everything together.
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Why setting boundaries can feel so uncomfortable, and how to tell the difference between a healthy boundary and an attempt to control someone else.
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The psychological relationship between rejection, approval, belonging and self-worth, and why the sting of being left out can feel so out of proportion.
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Why insight alone rarely changes entrenched behaviour, and what meaningful, lasting change actually requires.
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ADHD, social media, mental health, self-diagnosis and the psychological issues shaping modern life, explained clearly and without the hype.
Available for television, radio, podcasts and selected speaking engagements.
In conversation on Today Extra
Kerstin joins the Today Extra team on Channel Nine to unpack the rise of ADHD in adults. She has also appeared on Nine News, Sunrise and The Morning Show.
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How to break the patterns that keep you giving more than you get
Why do we keep repeating the same patterns in relationships, even when we know they’re not working? Knowing Why explores the psychology behind the patterns that shape our lives: where they come from, how they show up and what it takes to change them.
Knowing Why
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